Long time no
see? talk? post!
I promised myself no apologies for not blogging, so here I am, not apologizing. Instead, I’m saying hello! I’ve missed you all so much. Freshman year is over (and no it hasn’t hit me yet) and I’m currently sitting in my dorm room with my tower fan on full blast and the windows open because New York is HOT, y’all.
So, what am I doing now? Why am I still in my dorm room? Basically, I’m in NYC until the end of July (!!!) working at Barnard. I’m staying on campus (bless free room and board in exchange for work) and doing anything and everything I want to do in New York.
So far, I’ve watched the entirety of the new Netflix documentary series “The Keepers” (WATCH IT IT’S SO GOOD IT’S LIKE CRIMINAL MINDS AND SPOTLIGHT ALL IN ONE) and too much Criminal Minds. I’ve attempted to work on my book but have yet to find inspiration or the motivation, and have read ten pages of The Handmaid’s Tale while riding the Subway. I joined a gym (!!! ADULTING!!!!) and realized I, despite having lived in Texas my entire life, somehow don’t own enough summer clothes. Don’t ask.
Anyways, life is good. I’m cooking for myself again, which I love, and have been going to sleep whenever I want and watching Netflix until I can’t anymore. I’ve walked through New York in 90 degree weather, went to Midtown (I never go to Midtown) and checked another museum off of my to-see list.
This summer is all about three things: exploring, passions, and ME. My goals for the summer are to do things in New York I’ve been meaning to do for ages but just haven’t and to re-connect with the things I love. These two things tie into my last goal, which is to focus on myself. I was super busy this year and put self-care on the back burner (don’t do this!!!!) and now it’s time to take care of myself. Not in the health way, but in the love way. Do things that make me happy, spend time on my own, re-connect with my heart and mind. That sounds so cheesy, but it’s something I never realized was so important.
My last point ties into the second half of this post: COLLEGE!!!! I wanted to a “Freshman Year of College Tips, Tricks, and Things I Wished Someone Told Me” wrap-up post, so here it is:
COLLEGE! ! !
1. It’s okay not to be homesick. (And here’s how not to be!)
I wasn’t homesick this year. Like, at all. That partly is me and my relationship with my hometown (aka I couldn’t wait to go somewhere new) but I think it’s also a product of what I did my first two months of school. Basically, I threw myself into making friends. I had almost every meal with someone, I studied with other people, I had movie nights with my friends, I stayed up late talking, I went out in the city with them. I just spent all of my time around other people. I was also crazy busy because of this–between school, work, and friends, I didn’t have a lot of time to just be on my own and be bored.
Which is how I wasn’t homesick. I didn’t have the time to think about home. I didn’t have the time to get sad. I was around people who made me happy and that kept me in a good mood. But, I think it also played into my lack of self-care — because I was around other people all the time, I didn’t have time to do the things that make me happy, most of which are solo activities. Watch Netflix, read books, write. I didn’t do any of those things for my first two months of college. However, I wouldn’t change what I did my first two months, because I think it turned out really well in the end.
And to the name of this thing-I-wished-someone-told-me, everyone was confused why I wasn’t homesick. I felt like there was something wrong with me because I wasn’t homesick. And that’s not okay–if you aren’t homesick, that’s ok. That’s perfectly fine! Everyone’s college experience is different because we all come from different backgrounds, and your feelings about starting college aren’t weird or bad because they aren’t the “norm”.
2. Communal bathrooms aren’t bad! You won’t die from having a “random” roommate! You don’t need every shred of clothing you own!
I went an entire year with communal showers and let tell you, I didn’t have a single moment where I was like “I HATE THESE THINGS!!!!!!” Let me tell you, having someone else clean your bathroom is a pretty sweet deal. As is not having to wait for a shower or bathroom while your roommate is in there. As is not having to pay for toilet paper, paper towels, soap, cleaning supplies, etc. I loved my communal bathroom! #unpopularopinion
On the topic of roommates: I’m so happy I didn’t pick a roommate from the admitted students page because I never would’ve picked my roommate based on Facebook but we fit so well. We’ve become best friends and I miss her SO. MUCH. We had very different childhoods and have some different habits, but we also are super similar. We joke about the fact that Residential Life must have looked at our personal essays or something because our roommate questionnaire was too short to be able to match us. And yet! They did! I think it’s super important to live with someone with a different background from you because it’s part of what going to college is all about. So, basically, I couldn’t be happier with my living situation this year.
And PACKING. Please don’t bring your entire wardrobe to college. You will wear a quarter of it. Also, don’t go college shopping before you move to college. Your style will change upon going to college, I swear to you. The stuff I wear now I never would’ve worn in Austin because I live in a different environment. So save your money and go shopping once you arrive at college.
3. College is hard. Don’t let anyone tell you differently.
I went from being a straight-A student to being a solid B student in college. And at first it was a shock. But then it was SO relieving. Unless you have an academic scholarship, your freshman year in college is the time when your grades really don’t matter. So don’t kill yourself trying to get a 100% on every assignment, or by taking classes you think will be easy but you’ll hate. Instead, take classes that you’re interested in! Even if you get bad grades, you’re learning and that’s what college is ALL about.
Also, college is really freaking hard. Don’t hold yourself to the same expectations that you had in high school. Instead, try and take some of the pressure off of yourself. It’ll make the workload of college a whole lot easier.
4. HAVE FUN!
College is yes, about getting a degree, but it’s also about figuring out who you are as an adult. So have fun. Meet new people. Try new things. Face your fears.
That’s all I can think of right now, but please let me know if you have questions about college! I love answering questions and I love college, so I’m honestly the perfect person to ask.
Hugs to all of you and talk to you soon! (I promise. I’m really trying to make blogging more regular.)